By: Ruchita Robinson
5 Things Parents Need To Know About Personality Tests
Are you excited about being a parent and want to nurture your child in the best way you can? Have you taken a personality test for your child and are worried about discovering his natural inclination? These are 5 things you need to know about personality tests : 1) Know your child's personality type as well as your own Do you ever feel annoyed if your child’s behaviour doesn’t match your expectations? You are tired after work and want to read a nice story to your child but he is super energetic and wants to skate, bike, hike, somersault and make you run all around the house till you lose your patience. On the contrary, you might be super energetic and have all plans set for the day. You want to rush to the grocery store but your child insists on slowly tying his shoelaces, daydreaming and playing with it till you finally lose your nerves. You often tend to forget that just like any other person, you and your child are distinct individuals with different personality traits. Hence, if you know how your personalities are different and how they are alike, it is easy to maintain your calm and be a better parent. Knowing your child’s personality type as well as your own goes a long way in understanding why your child behaves the way he does. 2) Help them cultivate traits that don't come naturally to them If you are an extrovert but your child is shy and reserved, you can help your child mingle up with the other children and even though he might remain naturally shy, he will start enjoying the company of other kids and learn to make friends. In this way, your child will learn to act in a balanced way depending on the environment, people and expectations. He may be adventurous and fun loving at times, and yet exercise prudence when needed. By knowing your child’s personality type, you can help them develop traits that are essential for them to succeed in relationships and environment. 3)Nature vs Nurture What matters more- nature or nurture? A popular subject of debate among the psychologists, this question usually bothers a lot of parents too. If you are worried about a set of behavioural genes that your child might inherit from you or your family, it is not necessary that he remains stuck with it all life. Your child’s personality is shaped by multiple factors including biology and your upbringing. To know how your children absorb the world around them or how environmental factors affect their temperament, might help you figure out the answer you are looking for. Don't stereotype your child in any one personality type. Enjoy the process of their personal development as you see them grow from an innocent child to a confident adult. Soon you will realise that every child has a unique set of strengths and weaknesses which cannot be summed up in any one personality type. 4) Recognising your child's natural inclination A parent who has raised more than one child will know that no two children are alike. Therefore, there is no one size fits all parenting as well. Every child is unique and has a personality trait which is different from the other. Your child loves to draw, play music or write songs but you want him to be the captain of the football team just as you were. How often do we try to force our personality traits or our dreams on our children? We usually ignore our child’s natural inclination and try to limit them in a box of our own expectations. This limits the development of the child and might even lower their self-esteem in some cases. Recognising your child’s natural talent and providing the environment that strengthens it, is the biggest gift you can give to your child. 5) Know about testing personalities too early If you are anxious about the personality development of your child and put a lot of importance on testing child personality, there are few facts that you should know. Knowing your child’s temperament might make parenting easier for you, but it is important to understand that personalities shape up as children grow and learn. Personality development is a process determined by biological, family, cultural and situational factors. Every child is unique and so is the way in which they absorb the world around them. This, in turn, influences their behaviour and attitude as they grow up. If you have built a prejudice based on the personality test of your child, you might be surprised to see them develop in a different manner than you expected it to be. Your relation with your child has more impact on him than any other person. So do all you can to nurture your child. When children feel accepted by their parents, they believe in themselves too. Accept the uniqueness of your child and tell them that you believe in them.